SLEEP WITH ME (1994)

Directed By: Rory Kelly 
Written By: Duane Dell’Amico, Roger Hedden, Neal Jimenez, Joe Keenan, Rory Kelly and Michael Steinberg  Cinematography: Andrzej Sekula
Editor: David Moritz 

Cast: Eric Stoltz, Meg Tilly, Craig Sheffer, Lewis Arquette, Todd Field, Parker Posey, Vanessa Angel, Susan Traylor, Dean Cameron, Thomas Gibson, Joey Lauren Adams, June Lockhart, Adrienne Shelly, Alexandra Hedison, Quentin Tarantino 

Sarah, Joseph, and Frank are BFFs. Joseph and Sarah get married but the evening before she tells Frank with a kiss that it could’ve been him. Frank continues to have a thing for Sarah.


Six different writers wrote a scene each of this romantic comedy featuring the marriage and turbulent relationship of Joseph and Sarah, with Joseph’s best friend Frank trying hard to cope with letting the love of his life marry his best friend. An interesting experiment though it might also explain why it

Seems like a bit of a mess. That seems endless and single-focused. After a while it feels like small talk, about a lot of things said but nothing of any depth that can be called interesting. It might have worked better as a play. 

A 1990’s relationship drama with some very little comedy thrown in. It seemed dated even when it came out. It feels like a dramatic episode of the television show FRIENDS.

The film involves a group of friends who are all married and/or in serious relationships and only seem to hang out with each other. They are still young and hip with no kids in sight. 

So, of course, they have only one friend who is single and this film Explores all the different couplings in relationships. The one that gets the most attention is Meg Tilly who is usually a joy to see on screen. As she is rather obscure. Whose character is engaged to Eric Stoltz’s character. Who is kind of a ladies’ man whose best friend, played by Craig Sheffer with some Ill-advised facial hair and even worse hippie wardrobe is in love with Tilly’s character and she knows it.

She comes across as cruel because she knows yet every time he brings a date to their get-together. She interrogates and then insults them. 

When she suspects her fiancé of cheating she sleeps with Sheffer’s character out of spite and when he thinks they have started a relationship she begins to feel bad and have feelings. When Eric finds out and informs her he didn’t cheat. So now the two guys are competing for her. 

Imagine the Andrew McCarthy-Ally Sheedy-Judd Nelson love triangle from ST ELMO’S FIRE. Only if Nelson didn’t cheat and it was the main part of the movie, only more dramatic and you are on the same page as this film. 

The film tries to be a broad comedy type of movie played subtly seriously. It comes across as a bunch of self-important characters. Who think they are cool but aren’t coming to grips with growing up and making it seem more dramatic and meaningful than it actually is.

It’s a shame as the film has a good cast and could have really been good under better circumstances. 

Somehow here the direction just seems to drain all the fun and interest out of not only the scenes but the characters. The script seems fine if not indulgent and self-important. 

One only wishes for a more skilled director. Who could have better handled the material and made the scenes a little more vivid and exciting. At least give it a kind of sense of humor about itself. 

Maybe also allowing the film to be more of an ensemble and not focus so much on the leads and give the side characters more nuance and more to do. So the love triangle could have been more of a side caper or we see how it affects the dynamics of everyone in the group. 

After a while though it seems Like every woman throws themselves at Stoktz’s character. This is easy to see when Sheffer’s Comes off more as creepy and he is the single available one. Who seems to mess up any chance he has with other women. While Stoltz’s Character is already married has nothing to lose. As he already has a wife. So he can talk to these women without seeming like he wants to bed them Or looking for something. Which in turn seems to make him a challenge for them 

The only true noteworthy scene is the cameo by writer-director Quentin Tarantino giving a rant or his theory on how the movie TOP GUN is really a movie about a man’s struggle with his homosexuality. (This was before the internet introduced many people’s wild outlandish film and television theories)

In fact, that is one of the only reasons I watched it. The other is Eric Stoltz and Parker Posey, actors I am a huge fan of. 

GRADE: D+

TAR (2022)

Written & Directed By: Todd Field
Cinematography: Florian Hoffmeister 
Editor: Monika Willi 

Cast: Cate Blanchett, Noemie Merlant, Nina Hoss, Sophie Kauer, Mark Strong, Sydney Lemmon, Sylvia Flote, Zachary D. Smith-Gneist 

Having achieved an enviable career few could even dream of, renowned conductor/composer Lydia Tár, the first female principal music director of the Berlin Philharmonic, is at the top of her game. As a conductor, Lydia not only orchestrates, she manipulates. As a trailblazer, the passionate virtuoso leads the way in the male-dominated classical music industry. Moreover, Lydia prepares for the release of her memoir while juggling work and family. She is also willing to take up one of her most significant challenges: a live recording of Gustav Mahler’s Symphony No. 5. However, forces that even the imperious maestro can’t control slowly chip away at Lydia’s elaborate facade, revealing the genius’s dirty secrets and the insidious, corrosive nature of power. What if life knocks Lydia off her pedestal?


This film feels like an epic in its Scope and locations but also really for this one character. Who goes all over the spectrum of emotions and from being high on the horse to l falling so low. 

As impressive as the film is, the performance of Cate Blanchett is mesmerizing; it certainly helps that she is constantly on the screen and she is in every scene. This also allows us to notice that we see everything from her point of view.

We see how high her ego is but also how talented she is and can easily back it up. We see her views on certain subjects and life. As well as her behavior in life. 

We also see her downfall and never are quite sure if she is guilty or not, but we can see that those around her totally abandon her and now that the mighty have fallen are willing to sell her out. How some might have even conspired In her downfall, getting passed over once gotten what they wanted, has no problem only added to her downfall.

We never really get an answer to her guilt but can see questionable behavior. Such as threatening a little girl who bullies her daughter we might be able to understand that as a parent, but who is to say she doesn’t have that attitude with those older yet under her. Who needs her approval 

As she is touchy with younger students but that seems more free-flowing. We never see her victims, only glimpses of emails that her assistant has been keeping and filing.

It becomes a mystery in itself as to who exactly is behind taking her down. Though the film remains subtle. It keeps offering hints of what might be happening behind the scenes. Who might be holding grudges and why. As her attitude is flippant toward those around her.

In its own way, it is a tragedy that is a black comedy. In The second half, the film is systematically her downfall and her reaction to it as it happens and she gets more and more unbalanced. Which is when the true range of Blanchett’s Performance truly shines.

Then in the third act where she tries to get her career back and the lengths she has to go through just to work. All the way to a foreign land where even though she obviously dislikes her surroundings there are hints that she might be guilty of what she has been accused of as far as grooming. Such as when she goes to the massage parlor and runs out and throws up. We suspect that this is after realizing what kind of parlor it is, but also it might be after that she has to resort to paying for this kind of attention.

That is how the film presents her as a double-edged sword of someone who we could admire but also might be repulsive and guilty of her accusations. As even when she sees her brother he is nonchalant about her and his feelings towards her and why in pure and simple language.

That is the magic of the film. Everything is presented plainly but there are so many subtle hints that you never know exactly the truth only how she sees it. Even though the video footage was presented later we know was doctored. As we sat through her class and know her comments have been cut together. 

The film’s comedy is very dry and subtle but on second viewing it becomes a little more clear. As the first time, the film jsit feels devastating and the biggest joke of all is the finale. As we see the audience for her 

Grade: B+